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Day 5: Love is not rude...
sleepyHe who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. Proverbs 27:4
I can't believe I left off on only day four...it's not that I haven't been keeping up, I've just not been able to get to the computer as often as I'd like. But I digress.
I'm almost embarrassed, as I can't remember now any of my thoughts regarding this particular day...other than thinking that I'm pretty good at this as it is. Not to say I'm perfect and have a big head...there are times in which I may use sarcasm or use a biting tone when we are in the middle of an argument. The thought You may be barking or pouting around the house, but if the front door chimes, you open it all smiling and kind. Joyce Meyer has mentioned that same kind of behavior, too, in some of her messages.
The book lists three guiding principles by which to practice etiquette in our marriages:
1. Guard the Golden rule.
2. No double standards.
3. Honor requests.
Okay, on occasion Satan has tricked me into not following through with principle 3. There have been a few times (although not many) where he has asked me to do something and because I am angry with him for not following through on something, I choose not to honor his request. Not, probably, the best way to handle a fight...maybe if you are back in third grade or something.
I'm almost embarrassed, as I can't remember now any of my thoughts regarding this particular day...other than thinking that I'm pretty good at this as it is. Not to say I'm perfect and have a big head...there are times in which I may use sarcasm or use a biting tone when we are in the middle of an argument. The thought You may be barking or pouting around the house, but if the front door chimes, you open it all smiling and kind. Joyce Meyer has mentioned that same kind of behavior, too, in some of her messages.
The book lists three guiding principles by which to practice etiquette in our marriages:
1. Guard the Golden rule.
2. No double standards.
3. Honor requests.
Okay, on occasion Satan has tricked me into not following through with principle 3. There have been a few times (although not many) where he has asked me to do something and because I am angry with him for not following through on something, I choose not to honor his request. Not, probably, the best way to handle a fight...maybe if you are back in third grade or something.
ASK YOUR SPOUSE TO TELL YOU THREE THINGS THAT CAUSE HIM OR HER TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE OR IRRITATED WITH YOU. YOU MUST DO SO WITHOUT ATTACKING THEM OR JUSTIFYING YOUR BEHAVIOR. THIS IS FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE ONLY.
It took me a few days to do this, mostly because by the time I read the book he was already asleep...and I'm sure the last thing he wanted was for me to go wake him up just to ask him how I irritated him. I can tell you the first thing on the list would be waking him up to ask him such a silly question!
So, I finally got around to asking him about it yesterday. He insisted that there was nothing about me that irritated him. I pressed him, told him not to be afraid of retaliation, I just wanted to know. He still insisted that there was nothing. I know that this isn't true... I know that if I have to go into the bedroom to get something or if I have to ask him something when he's got to get up for work at 3 am, then it irritates him to be woken up. I try to avoid the bedroom if at all possible until I'm ready for bed. Otherwise, I'm not sure myself...unless if the apartment is messy (which unfortunately is quite often with three small children)- sometimes he acts like it bothers him, like I'm not doing my duty as a wife...but sometimes I wonder if I'm reading into things that aren't there.
I am so exhausted, but I still have to dry clothes. I won't see bed before midnight. *sigh* Maybe I'll through them in the dryer and ask him to retrieve them when he gets up to go tomorrow morning. I hate doing that since we have to use complex washers/dryers, but sometimes I'm not sure what else to do. He has applied to two jobs this weekend, and then I guess three more today. Hopefully one will contact him for an interview tomorrow. The closer Wednesday comes (his last day) the more nervous I get that he has nothing to go to. Pray that he will be contacted soon!
So, I finally got around to asking him about it yesterday. He insisted that there was nothing about me that irritated him. I pressed him, told him not to be afraid of retaliation, I just wanted to know. He still insisted that there was nothing. I know that this isn't true... I know that if I have to go into the bedroom to get something or if I have to ask him something when he's got to get up for work at 3 am, then it irritates him to be woken up. I try to avoid the bedroom if at all possible until I'm ready for bed. Otherwise, I'm not sure myself...unless if the apartment is messy (which unfortunately is quite often with three small children)- sometimes he acts like it bothers him, like I'm not doing my duty as a wife...but sometimes I wonder if I'm reading into things that aren't there.
I am so exhausted, but I still have to dry clothes. I won't see bed before midnight. *sigh* Maybe I'll through them in the dryer and ask him to retrieve them when he gets up to go tomorrow morning. I hate doing that since we have to use complex washers/dryers, but sometimes I'm not sure what else to do. He has applied to two jobs this weekend, and then I guess three more today. Hopefully one will contact him for an interview tomorrow. The closer Wednesday comes (his last day) the more nervous I get that he has nothing to go to. Pray that he will be contacted soon!
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